I got so frustrated I canceled my membership, then surprise surprise I get a message from a woman. So you meet someone, and there is just one teensy weensy thing that bothers you about them, you can just log back into your account and resume emailing the masses again. This is not a judgement but rather a learning on my part. They are enthralled by power too. So my advice is to start by weeding out anyone who won't verify financial status.